D, now you are 13

By | May 19, 2017

Our gorgeous girl, how can you be 13? The years have positively flown by and here we are, you’re a teenager, something you’ve been looking forward to.

I thought, to mark the occasion, I’d list 13 facts and then 13 things we love about you, here goes:

1.  You were born in our new house, six weeks after we moved in and six days early.  The gap between us moving into our home and you arriving was large enough for me to get most of the unpacking done but there are some boxes in the garage that still haven’t been opened!

2.  You love the fact you were born in our home, as you said you “popped out and wriggled under the bedclothes”, 12.27pm you were born, smaller than your brothers but with the most elegant little fingers and toes, we always said you’d be a pianist.

3.  Your middle name is Grace after the film your Dad and I saw on our first date – Saving Grace.  It suits you.

4.  You didn’t have much hair until your first birthday and then a shock of pale blonde hair appeared, all tufty.  By the time you were three you had a very healthy head of hair, with a mixture of light and dark blonde, such a highlighted effect that the chemist in Boots accused me of dye-ing it, silly woman!

5.  You never wanted to be rocked to sleep and were a very independent baby, your brother needed to be sung to, you seemed to know when you needed to sleep and how (self soothing) and that was that.  That’s not to say you don’t like cuddles, you love them, the squishier the better and you love being tucked in now.

6.  Apart from Bunny, you didn’t like to carry around soft toys, you preferred an ELC play food asparagus stick and ELC play peas.  Oh the screams if one dropped!  Later on, you’d collect play food and playmobil figures and have them in little bags that you carried everywhere, for security in mainstream nursery as you found everything so overwhelming.

7.  You love music but only songs you’re familiar with.  One recent addition to your iPad playlist is “Cruel Summer” by Bananarama, you were surprised when I knew the words!  We sing along to it.

8.  You’re a lovely singer and we are so so proud that you have a solo at a concert next week.  The build-up will be practice, practice and more practice at school.  

9.  The teachers at your school know that a “softly, softly gentle tone” works with you, a sudden change of tone scares you and the anxieties from a shout take ages to go away.

10.  You play the flute and have a music teacher come into school every week.  You think it very funny if I have a try and end up just whistling into the flute!

11.  For a girl who refused to read phonetically, you’ve come along in leaps and bounds, your favourite author is Enid Blyton and reading a book is your way to calm a bit.

12.  You used to have a bit of a crush on “Deal or No Deal man” and now it’s Bradley Walsh or Bradders as you call him.  No matter how many times you’ve seen a repeated episode of The Chase, you’re as enthusiastic as the first time you viewed and remember exactly what offers each person took and whether they succeeded or not.

13.  Your favourite meal is a fish and chip shop tea, our Friday tea.

And what do we love about you, birthday girl?

1.  Your enthusiasm about being a teenager.  You’ve decided you won’t be a teenager who drops litter or marks walls with graffiti.  Of course I’m not saying all teenagers do, but that is your perception ATM.

2.  You love cuddles, as mentioned.  The squishier the better, it calms you having that compression. Sometimes, even though you’re nearly as tall as me you end up on my lap for a snuggle.

3.  You very suddenly got into all things pink about a year and a half ago, later than your peers but you got there with the girly likes! Your favourite colour is green, you’ve proudly told me.

4.  Your moods can be contagious, especially a good one.  I can always tell by your face when you’re not happy, sometimes you say what’s wrong, sometimes I second-guess, other things I feel I need a can-opener.

5.  Bluecrisps was my first blog and twitter name, after your love of blue crisps.

Blue crisps = cheese and onion 

Really salted = ready salted 

Yellows = quavers 

Splot = tomato ketchup 

6.  You are polite.  If we’re at the shops and pop into Costa, you hold the door open for people, some say thank you, others don’t.

7.  Because you love Enid Blyton books, your speech and writing ways have been influenced, for example, you knew I was heading off for a consultation about next steps for my feet operations and you gave me a cuddle and wished me “all the best”, so funny, so typically D.

8.  You have no body image issues.  Oh I am so pleased about that! No endless pouting selfies, you smile in photos.  I could take pictures when your sad or approaching a meltdown, I won’t, I respect you too much for that.

9.  You are very aware of the time, apart from “Just a few more minutes” at tucking-in time. Meals have to be on the dot or you say you’re “wasting away”.

10.  You love to draw, we love your drawings, so detailed and always so positive, I can’t ever remember a negative drawing.  You’re not finished until every last centimetre of a piece of paper has been coloured in.

11.  A card or a note from you is so special because you struggle with writing.  A card is always accompanied by a picture of a present or something applicable to the recipient, for your Dad it’s football, for me crochet or a coffee etc.

12.  We love your willingness to try out new activities at school, sometimes you enjoy them, sometimes you don’t.  When you don’t, you keep going but your face changes, your head drops and you mask emotions until you get home and “bam”, it all comes out!  

13.  You know the passcode to my phone and sometimes you’ll answer it to your dad if I can’t get there in time, it makes me smile when you answer “hello Dad, it’s your daughter”, so polite, so lovely, so D.

We can’t wait to see you open your presents and pat some balloons around.  

Our birthday girl, you’ve taught me so much about parenting, special needs and autism and I’ll carry on learning from you, smiling with you for ever.

Love you so much D. 

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Jasmin N on 21st May 2017 at 4:52 pm.

Oh happy birthday to her! She’s gorgeous. Loved the things you love about her, this was such a cute read!


Jeannette on 22nd May 2017 at 12:27 pm.

Thank you 🙂 it was really nice to write this x


Babies and Beauty / Emily Nellist on 21st May 2017 at 6:17 pm.

Oh this is sweet, I can’t believe someone accused you of dye-ing her hair, how awful!! The toy peas and asparagus made me chuckle, it’s strange what they find comfort in isn’t it?


Jeannette on 22nd May 2017 at 12:27 pm.

I know! We found her peas and asparagus the other day, so cute 🙂


Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... on 22nd May 2017 at 8:39 am.

Happy birthday D and congratulations to you for raising such a wonderful sounding child, you must be so proud 🙂
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Jeannette on 22nd May 2017 at 12:26 pm.

Thank you, I’m very proud of her x


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