This week’s #WOTW and #R2BC – 5/11/2015
By Jeannette | November 5, 2015
Earlier on this week, I would have chosen a very different word to sum up our week.
Take Monday, D was at home with me, overly anxious about the other children at her school, not the majority, just the ones who decide it’s “fun” to tell her she’s “chubby”, “ugly” and has no friends. The sort of things that chip away at anybody, but factor in the fact that she’s not confident enough to tell them to stop it, then she’s an easy target.
She’d got so anxious about returning to school that she’d been hurting herself, scratching and pulling away at one of her arms until it was sore. Poor thing.
Action was needed, I sent her back in on Tuesday, having written in the diary exactly why she’d been off and had a word (or two) with the individuals as they came out of school (a bonus for taking and collecting her).
Since then, we have a happier daughter and she seems to no longer be a target. I’m “mean” according to them, though. I will take being “mean” any day (and a lot more) if it means that D feels more comfortable at school.
There are going to be times in the future when she’ll have to stand up for herself but she’s been a target for these individuals for years (yes, years) and not just her, others have been targeted too. Enough was enough.
So, a huge:
(This week’s Word for the Week) that hopefully the situation has been sorted.
I’m also cheering because (the #R2BC bit):
1. It was T’s birthday yesterday and he’s reached the grand old age of 13. Unfortunately it was a school day but he enjoyed his presents and seemed to have a good day.
He and D always like birthday cakes from M&S (yes, I could make one but it wouldn’t look as good, not even close, that’s if it rose…) and I choose “Happy Birthday” cubes, we also discovered they spell other words, which made T smile a bit!
They taste rather nice too.
2. A long overdue pamper
Being an SN parent can be challenging, on all levels. I wouldn’t change anything (apart from the bureaucracy) about our lovely individual children but, by golly, just day to day can leave you (or me) a bit of a wreck.
These last couple of years have taken their toll emotionally and it was time for a long-overdue pamper. For me.
No filters. No pouts. Just me afterwards. I love it! T said I look older (bless him and his honesty) with my new hairdo but I disagree. Very pleased that I had the time to go, thanks to my lovely Hubbie who collected D from school and then waited for T to get off his coach.
3. Feeling valued
I’m loving my voluntary comms work too. It’s good to be appreciated, to have my opinions asked and not to be treated as just a woman, or a housewife.
And, if it’s not raining torrentially, we’re off to the circus tomorrow, an annual show which is extremely SN-friendly and always full of laughter.
All in all, this week will end on a cheery note, how’s yours been?
14 Comments
Louise George on 6th November 2015 at 7:48 am.
Poor D – so horrible to be the target of bullying and so glad that you being “mean” seems to have stopped it. Hopefully it will make them think twice about picking on someone else as well. Glad that T had a good birthday – those birthday cubes do look yummy and rearranging them to make other words sounds like it was fun. How lovely that you had some time to pamper yourself too and your haircut looks fab, Hope you have a lovely weekend and enjoy going to the circus 🙂
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:55 pm.
It was a fab circus trip and can def recommend the cake cubes – yummy!
Jocelyn (@ReadingRes) on 6th November 2015 at 10:13 am.
So sorry to hear D has been going though this, but I do hope it’s all sorted now and glad to hear she’s happier. A belated happy birthday to T! And you look fab, lovely to make the time for a well-deserved pamper x Thanks for sharing with #WotW
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:54 pm.
Thanks, it’s always tricky when you’re never sure if the other child knows what they’re saying and if they intend to hurt, but this one did. Very glad it seems to have eased now x
Karen Bell on 6th November 2015 at 10:46 am.
It’s awful to hear how D has been made to feel, well done for sorting it, I hope she remains happier now. Lovely to have a pamper for you, glad you enjoyed it. #WoTW
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:53 pm.
Thanks, it was lovely to have some me time x
Kim Carberry on 6th November 2015 at 6:27 pm.
Good for you for being the mean mum! I would have done the same too. Poor D! I hope this is the end of the situation!
I’m glad T had a good birthday…Kids shouldn’t have to go to school on their special day….hehehe
You are looking fabulous! It is so good you found some time for yourself x
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:53 pm.
Thanks, it seems to have sorted out the bullying issue, I think they know I’ll speak up again x
The Collage Queen on 6th November 2015 at 7:05 pm.
That’s great that you have sorted out the bullying. That cake looks totally delicious and a pamper is always a lovely thing. #WoTW
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:52 pm.
Thanks, cake is always good. Very pleased that D is so much happier too 🙂
tracey (mummyshire) on 6th November 2015 at 9:36 pm.
Sounds like you’ve had a really happy, positive week, and for tackling the problems at school head on. Sometimes you just have to wade in because it’s not fair on the children. Glad the birthday went well and you managed to get away, too – I think you look lovely!
xx
#WoTW
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:50 pm.
Aww thank you, it was really nice to have some “me” time x
mommyslittleprincesses on 7th November 2015 at 9:02 am.
Poor D as I read what was happening to her it made my heart ache. It truly saddens me how mean some children can be. I’m so glad that things seem to be sorted now and that D is feeling better about it all. Wishing T a belated happy birthday I hope he had a great day! You look fab too by the way. Xx
Jeannette on 21st November 2015 at 12:49 pm.
Thank you, it was a positive feeling to get the bullying situation sorted and to have a pamper x