End of Primary – Weds 22nd July 2015

By | July 22, 2015

Here’s D at the end of school today, her last day in the Primary section.  She’s got an ice cream for two reasons – one, it was injection time this morning, which wasn’t popular and two, it was an end of term treat.

One happy girl.

Time has passed so quickly, it doesn’t seem that long ago that she was a teeny little D, transferring over to SN after a term in mainstream year one.  She wasn’t coping, the environment was too much for her system and she rarely made it into the classroom, let alone participating or actively learning.

We had a choice, as her parents.  Do we continue in mainstream, hope that she’ll improve and that she’ll be tolerated by the others in her class (an overwhelmed SN child in a mainstream class is not easy on the fellow pupils) or, opt for a smaller class size/higher staff ratio? An environment in where she’d hopefully be more comfortable but it wouldn’t lead to qualifications? The emphasis being on life skills and social skills.  We opted for the latter, there really wasn’t a choice when it came down to it …. and hoped.

D entered the SN class with stilted speech, unable to read and she was able to write her name with difficulty.  She refused to learn to read phonetically, preferring to memorise (much like her number skills, mainstream refused to believe she could count from 1-50 at age 3, until they heard her) words instead, which mainstream couldn’t adapt to.

Fast forward to now and she reads, she loves to read, it is a joy to go and choose Rainbow Magic books from the library for her.  Writing has improved but it’s very much on her terms, she finds it “tiring” and that makes a little message in a card all the more special.  Her confidence has increased and we’ll walk into school arm-in-arm with her saying “morning” to the staff.  She does have problems with telling a child who may be being unkind to her in the playground to stop, because she’s afraid that teachers will tell her off, she then bottles up all that emotion until she sees me (which can mean a bolt) but she will eventually tell me what’s wrong.  Eventually could mean hour or days later.

Secondary fortunately for D won’t mean a change of school, it’s a move to the other side of the corridor.  We have a social story with the staff and fellow pupils and she is over the moon to be back with a TA that she is very familar with.

For now though, it’s relief that she’s happy and comfortable in her environment.  Another teacher told her that she was “a lovely, lovely girl” yesterday and she is.  She just happens to be autistic too.  

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Silly Mummy on 29th July 2015 at 10:25 am.

Glad the school change worked so well for her! I hate the current strict adherence to synthetic phonics as the way to teach reading in mainstream schools. Phonics have their place, but they don’t teach context, don’t encourage children to read for pleasure, can’t cope with the illogical aspects of our language and, ironically, often discriminate against children who are better readers! Very pleased that D’s school has taught reading in a way that suits her and she now enjoys it.

The ice cream looks lovely! #SSAmazingAchievements


Jeannette on 8th December 2015 at 12:21 pm.

Me too, every child should be treated as an individual and flexibility around methods of learning x


alison on 29th July 2015 at 8:04 pm.

It sounds like she’s doing incredibly well, and it’s fantastic that she loves to read. Choosing the right school when you have a child with autism is so overwhelming, but you’ve clearly made the right choice. #SSAmazingAchievements


Jeannette on 8th December 2015 at 12:20 pm.

Thanks Alison, I’m grateful every day that she’s comfortable in school 🙂


rebecca beesley on 29th July 2015 at 10:22 pm.

what a brilliant story – so glad it worked out for the best for her. Also great that you don’t have to worry about a change of school for secondary. We will be rather nervous in september to see how things work out for J. And what a huge ice cream – I’m jealous! #SSAA xxx


Jeannette on 8th December 2015 at 12:19 pm.

Thanks Rebecca, I can’t imagine how she would have coped with a move of schools to secondary (well, she wouldn’t have done) so it’s a relief that she’s settled and remaining there.
Hope your J is doing okay x


Jane - Our Little Escapades on 4th August 2015 at 6:52 pm.

I’m so glad she has done so well at her school. It really is the right place for her. You never know if you are making the right decision at the time but time has proved it was right. I hope the move, even just across the hall, goes well for her x


Jeannette on 8th December 2015 at 12:17 pm.

Very true, it was a mega decision we had to make on her behalf but so glad we did x


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