Our Girlie Day – Tues 5th May 2015

By | May 5, 2015

T went back to school today and, as D had an inset day and town would be quieter than at the weekend, D and I had a girlie trip to town.

This would have been imaginable even three years ago, she didn’t have the understanding that we’d be going to “x, y and z place” before having a drink/lunch, nor was she confident enough to walk arm in arm, due to her stranger anxieties.  So, we’d have to use a buggy, which would just draw more attention to her, which she wouldn’t notice, but T and I would.  Bless him.

Anyway, she’s done brilliantly today, absolutely brilliantly.  There were times when she’s flatly refuse to move in a shop and would be standing in a corner, looking very unhappy and anxious, but that’s when a big cuddle always helps and a reassurance that we won’t be long.

We did some “boring” stuff, taking a couple of things back, getting ingredients for T’s cooking lesson tomorrow and then we did some fun things:

Trying on wigs and hair accessories in Claire’s Accessories.  I had previously thought that the grey hair trend wasn’t for me but I loved that wig and as for the purple-silvery one – OMG! A bit of a surprise as to how much I wanted to get that.  But I didn’t.  Maybe a combination of the two, ha! Knowing me it would come out very, very wrong!

Claire’s was nice and quiet, perfect for D to have a browse, try on some hair bands and make a few hints about her upcoming birthday.

We even turned the “boring” stuff into fun too, with D scanning all the items through the self service till and enjoying it.

Our girl can be brutally honest at times and we had to wait for assistance because we’d put some nurofen through (very much still my buddy jaw-wise).  The explanation on the screen came up that it needed visual confirmation and I explained to D that it meant the shop assistant would look at me and see that I was old enough to be buying them.

And D’s response? “Mumma, they will look at you and see that you’re old enough because of your wrinkles!” and I thought the Nivea was helping… You have to laugh though, don’t you, because D tells it as she sees it – and it’s just part of her.  As does T.

The shop assistant who verified our purchase coincidentally also has a daughter with autism, a much older one and she was very positive with D, laughed with us at D’s “wrinkle” comment and said it was evident that we had a lovely relationship. Which was really nice to hear because I hope we do, I hope we always will, I do wonder sometimes if she’ll have the teenage outbursts but outbursts and emotional meltdowns are already part of our life, so maybe any additional teen factors will just pass us by. Don’t know.

T’s challenging week at school last week is continuing into this week.  At times he’ll talk about it (usually as we’re walking home and D is skipping just in front of us) he’ll get home and the headphones go on, almost as if that 15 minute walk is the window of opportunity to gauge how he’s doing.  I guess as they’re entering the final term of year 7, it’s all about preparing them for things getting a bit more challenging in year 8, something we had been pre-warning of but it seems to be coming to fruition now.

But I should be grateful (I am) that we do have that 15 minutes, that he’s not embarassed to walk back with us, that he (unless he’s had a rubbish day) gives us that little T-like smile when he gets off the coach, before he has his say about his day.

Tomorrow sees D returning to school, she is looking forward to sharing her News at the moment but, as any autism parent/carer will know, those anxieties can creep up on you unexpectedly.  There may be tears tomorrow.

Proud of them both today though. Very.

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Karen Sellers on 5th May 2015 at 9:47 pm.

You look adorable in the purple-silvery wig, I think you should pop back and treat yourself.

Seriously though, what huge progress for you and D having a day like this 🙂


Jeannette on 6th May 2015 at 4:31 pm.

Thanks lovely, it was mega mega progress.
That wig might be used in my next big thing!! X


Erica Price on 6th May 2015 at 12:13 pm.

What a lovely day for you and D! Loving the wig.


Jeannette on 6th May 2015 at 4:30 pm.

Thanks, it was fab and I’m very taken with that colour hair!


Sarah MumofThree World on 6th May 2015 at 1:22 pm.

That’s fantastic to be able to have a day like that at the shops. It was lovely what the lady in the supermarket said 🙂 I hope school went well!


Jeannette on 6th May 2015 at 4:30 pm.

Thanks Sarah, it was nice to get someone else’s observations (and in a positive way). School … hmmm… not met with enthusiasm this morning!


MyLifeAsAMummy on 6th May 2015 at 7:28 pm.

What a fab day you had! I love the purple wig! I think you should take another trup out and buy it! I think it was lovely that the lady in the supermarket said and did.

Laura x x x


Jeannette on 25th November 2015 at 1:04 pm.

Thank you, it’s always lovely when people see D for the wonderful girl she is x


Coombe Mill (Fiona) on 6th May 2015 at 10:26 pm.

Clearly you do have a lovely relationship just as the shop assistent observed! #SSAmazingAchievements


Jeannette on 25th November 2015 at 1:05 pm.

Thanks, it’s always lovely to hear others say, so glad we have it 🙂


Louise George on 7th May 2015 at 9:10 am.

So glad that you and D had such a lovely girlie day together and so lovely that the lady in the supermarket could see you had a lovely relationship and told you so 🙂


Jeannette on 25th November 2015 at 1:05 pm.

Thanks, it was a really fab moment 🙂


Jane - Our Little Escapades on 12th May 2015 at 1:24 pm.

It sounds like you had a lovely girly day together. It’s so nice that D enjoyed it. It may be short but it’s nice that you get some insight into T’s day.

Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)


Jeannette on 25th November 2015 at 1:07 pm.

It is, I doubt T will want to walk back for much longer (embarrassment factor and all) so appreciate this time to chat whilst we do x


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