Special – Sun 15th March 2015
By Jeannette | March 15, 2015
Mother’s Day here in the UK and the build-up has been bittersweet for Hubbie as he remembers and misses his mum.
The next few weeks bring quite a few family birthdays too so it will be a time for reflection and a reminder to the children that sometimes Dad (Hubbie) might feel a bit sad.
This is easier said than done with T and D. An example being that I managed to burn my arm last week whilst ironing (I’ve got a quite “attractive” slash across my forearm). T – who shows very little emotion anyway – hasn’t been interested in the slightest (nor when it happened), in contrast I have to remember not to mention it (or have it visible) when D is around, because it reminds her of when she’s hurt herself (falling over or off her bike) and then she relives how much it hurt her.
It hasn’t been an over-the-top day, routine has carried on, it has to. Homework, ironing (urgh!), News writing and D’s reading, it all still has to happen.
Special is a word used a lot when you have autistic or special needs children. To me, it just means something away from the usual, the norm.
D wrote this in my Mother’s Day card today:
It’s always fantastic to see D writing, she finds this challenging. Her punctuation is always spot-on when she does write, in her slow, steady hand and my envelope had not 1, not 2, but 3 exclamation marks on it. She said that she’d done that because it was so exciting.
We had our chat at b a t h time this evening and I asked her what she’d meant by “special” in the card.
Her reply “…because you’re the best Mum in the world!”
It’s nice to feel “special”, to feel appreciated, to receive a cuddle from D that almost crushes my ribs as she gets excited, to get a small, shy smile from T when he’s comfy or a “thanks Mum” when he’s not on his headphones.
Those moments are special to me. They always will be.
I hope everyone’s day has gone well Jx
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