Our Tween – Tues 17th Feb 2015
By Jeannette | February 17, 2015
Oh T has looked forward to and needed this half term.
The early starts (leaving at 7.45am for the school bus), the homework and the fact he’s a “small fish in a big pond” as a year 7 in secondary school, they’ve all contributed to a weary T.
The last few weeks have been quite challenging, with not only T’s tiredness and the fact he masks his emotions and (at times) anxieties at school, but also he’s getting quite forthright at getting his opinion across and not necessarily wanting to listen to rationale. At home anyway.
It has made for times when I’ve felt like a referee between him and D, especially when their emotional and intellectual variances are right at the forefront of any squabbles.
Today though, this happened:
T had been woken up by Hubbie leaving early for work and instead of getting up and starting his day, he snuck in and occupied a space left by his dad. And went back to sleep.
This fiercely independent tween suddenly took me back to the toddler who wouldn’t sleep unless I sung to him, who slept in a little camp bed in our room until he was 6 because he was scared of being in a room on his own.
It wouldn’t help to remind him of all that now, in fact knowing T, he’d strenuously deny it.
But the catching-up with sleep is helping this week. He’s been more communicative, more (ish) open to suggestions and he and D had some squealy giggly trampoline fun this afternoon.
I know there will come a time when hormones will fully take over, when (the rare) cuddles we do get will disappear and that this morning was a rarity. Nice though that he still felt he could do that.
D is enjoying having a more amenable brother around too.
8 Comments
Erica Price on 18th February 2015 at 9:34 am.
That’s sweet. Transitions do wear them out don’t they? My son is still tired after school because of moving from infants to juniors.
Jeannette on 24th February 2015 at 8:51 pm.
Thanks, it definitely does tire them out. I hope you all had a lovely half term 🙂
Kim Carberry on 18th February 2015 at 8:44 pm.
Aww! Bless him! That’s so sweet! Being at secondary school is such a shock for them isn’t it…..My girl is always tired by the end of the week x
Jeannette on 24th February 2015 at 8:52 pm.
Thanks Kim, it’s been a lot of getting used to but he’s doing very well x
tracey (mummyshire) on 19th February 2015 at 3:38 pm.
Aww this is lovely! Just goes to show no matter how big they get they are still our babies!! Also how important sleep is! Glad that he’s waking up a little less grumpy!!
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Jeannette on 24th February 2015 at 8:53 pm.
Aww thank you, yes a bit more sleep definitely makes things easier 🙂
Jane - Our Little Escapades on 24th February 2015 at 12:18 pm.
I love these moments. Darren tries to keep Ethan in his room as much as possible but the days he works Ethan joins me. Good to hear that when T was 6 he was OK in his own room, this give me a little hope that nights could get easier.
Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)
x
Jeannette on 24th February 2015 at 8:56 pm.
Thanks Jane, it took a lot of time to get him in his own room. We made our handprints on the wall so that he knew we were close by, which really seemed to help.
We involved him in choosing his bed and decor too but ultimately he had to feel comfortable and ready. Hopefully your E will get there round the same time too x