“I’m not eating today”.. Weds 22nd Jan 2014

By | January 22, 2014

These were the first words D said to me this morning, as she lay under her duvet rigid with anxiety.

She continued “I’m not eating today, or any other day. I’m going to get so ill that I won’t have to go to school”.

My heart sank, both with concern and with confusion. It was very clear that something about school had made D extremely anxious, so anxious that she would say something negative like this.

She would not contemplate her breakfast and when D refuses to eat, I instantly know that there is something seriously wrong.

There was no way that I was going to attempt to get her into school, today needed to be a day of finding out what was making her so upset. A day of gentle prompting and hoping that she would feel comfortable enough to tell me.

T, meanwhile, was absolutely furious that D was having the day off when he’s gone in with snuffles earlier on in the week. A fact that I was reminded off all the way to his drop-off and as soon as I saw him this afternoon.

In the meantime, what’s been ailing D?

It transpires that it’s been another child getting to her. By (say, for example) mainstream playground standards, it would be negligible, one child calls another “a baby and a cry baby”, the other child would probably tell the first child to “stop it and shut up” and it would be over. Done.

Not so with D and this is an issue that is long-standing, she will bottle things up and not have the confidence to tell whoever to stop. Maybe she never will and that is what CAMHS should have been working on together with school, ways for her to express herself when incidents happen, not hours later.

Obviously D is also at an age where she can be heavily influenced and I definitely want to ensure that there weren’t any body-image related comments.

Thankfully D has eaten all her meals today and the reassurance that I will be talking to her teacher tomorrow has seemed to help, coincidentally there is a parents evening tomorrow but I’d like to catch him first thing. And try and speak to CAMHS.

She had been doing so well, so positively, it’s a shame that an ill-natured child seems intent on spoiling her play times (there have been previous instances and D has been told by staff to ignore it).

We’ll see what tomorrow will bring and I’ve been forgiven by T too (it did take a while).

I hope everyone’s day has gone well, comments/RTs/shares as ever welcomed, thanks for reading Jx


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