Tuesday 4th September – Ignorance!

By | September 4, 2012

Well, like lots of other children my two went back to school today. Although we’d been awake at more-or-less the same time all through the holidays, you can’t replicate that school-run feeling until the actual day.

We left about 5 minutes earlier than usual – for reasons unknown – and consequently arrived at T’s (mainstream) school earlier than usual. So we had a few minutes to wait in a very noisy, very busy mainstream playground. Oh, the looks, points and whispers we got. You’d think ET was sitting in a SN buggy, as opposed to my D.


She was getting very agitated by the noise (fortunately she didn’t notice the stares etc) so I put her ear defenders on her and she happily played “Robot Lab” until T lined up with his class and we could leave.

The school does have a SENco, I need to speak to her about potentially starting the diagnostic process for T, so it will be a good opportunity to mention inclusion etc.

A nice, sunny walk to D’s school, she walked the last 200 yards or so and we found two TAs waiting for her outside school. They told me that it had been agreed “to move D forward” that they would meet her at Reception from now on. Nothing had previously been said to me so I was, naturally, a bit miffed (okay, a lot) at the lack of communication about this change of routine. I had hoped to meet her new teacher, see her classroom and see who else was in her class – all valuable aids to encouraging conversation about her day. It wasn’t to be.

The two TAs are lovely – they were only passing on the message – she had them in class before last, so that is a big bonus and they ensured that she went with them happy, which is the main thing.

She came out at the end of the day looking extremely tired. She is the only girl in her class and from the brief discussion we had (very one-sided) we’ve worked out she’s in a class of at least 6. That’s about all we know. Oh, and Bunny spent the day in her pigeon-hole.

Poor D was so tired and emotional by the time we got home that she stomped to her room as soon as we got in. She does tend to build-up any emotion from during the day. It didn’t seem to be anything specific in gently talking to her, but the unexpected change to going in could have been a factor.

T was tired too, grumpy about his Match magazine not arriving and the fact he had a Homework Diary 😱, he had homework tonight too.

D was calmer after tea and wanted to watch …..The Goodies (surprise), a panic when the disc kept freezing but sticky little fingers seemed to be the culprit – phew!

So…first day back for my two, a 👍 (thumbs up) to them both for getting through it, but a definite 👎 (thumbs down) to D’s school for their lack of communication about the new arrangements.

How has your day been? 👍 or 👎 or 👋?

D wanted me to add this picture tonight, it’s the sunset behind the clouds from our garden, lovely contrast of colours:


To all those going back to school tomorrow/starting school “Good Luck”,
I hope everyone’s had a good day, thanks for reading. Comments/RTs as ever welcomed Jx 😘



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Emma Eames on 4th September 2012 at 8:09 pm.

I wouldn’t be happy with the school either J. I’d be gutted if I couldn’t take Elliot into his classroom every day, it’s the only way I get to find out what he’s doing and how he’s getting on and if they stopped that without telling me first i’d be fuming! As for bunny I’d definitely have to have a word with the teacher on that one! Rant over! Glad their days were ok though xx


coyotetooth on 4th September 2012 at 9:44 pm.

I am surprised that you couldn’t see the classroom and teacher. I always encouraged the parents to enter with the student, as it eases uncertainty in student and parent alike. I suppose different schools, different rules; I just can’t understand why people would want to make their jobs tougher.


1funmum on 4th September 2012 at 10:08 pm.

Well first day done now on to next few hundred lol. We use to get people looking at us too with our youngest boy. Just courious but what is a SN buggy? My youngest often doesn’t have to do much but he does comand an audience. Sad though D is still not getting bunny. My boy travels with Mario and friends! When sonic is with him watch out cause that guy is fast! Bunny would be a great tool to have a calm and less taxing day. My big guys home. Thank the lord no home work. Hugs to T for getting some and getting through it. Unfortunately that’s the only real part that gets me. I’m not sure my big sons teachers get it. They are often giving him work he finds hard. He struggles all day. Can’t finish or even start it. Then he has to take it all home and I’m suppose to teach him the same work and get him to complete it. We struggle through every year and every year it gets harder for him. The thought is he keeps passing grades every year so it doesn’t matter but what we have to do to get those grades is a bit much. Not sure if his teacher will get that this year but I’m hoping she will. Sending in my reg note and hoping for a great year. Oh please lord let the school year be gentel and come with the right work load. Let teachers be understanding of all kids with ASD. Lord here my prayer.


AdrianBrooks10 on 6th September 2012 at 8:26 pm.

Great post and absolutely LOVE LOVE the first picture posted in the blog! It is spot on!


AutismMumma on 7th September 2012 at 10:22 am.

Thanks Emma, hopefully the dialogue now established will continue. Hope your E has a good day x


AutismMumma on 7th September 2012 at 10:22 am.

Nor me….hopefully now sorted, thanks for reading & commenting 🙂


AutismMumma on 7th September 2012 at 10:24 am.

Thank you, I love that picture too 🙂


Susan Cook on 9th September 2012 at 12:47 am.

Do you have an educational advocate?


AutismMumma on 11th September 2012 at 9:23 am.

Thanks, D has now settled in very nicely to class, after Tuesday’s episode, I’m hoping it continues. IEP meeting soon.


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