Worries – Mon 8th June 2015

By | June 8, 2015

There have been worries aplenty for D today, starting from when she woke up this morning and said “I wish it was still the weekend”.  So did I.

On and off she’s been worrying about a particular issue since the middle of last week. Regular readers of my blogs will be aware that D has a fear of standing up for herself in a non adult-led situation – ie. playtime/lunchtime.   She doesn’t like to say “stop” or “go away” as she worries that she’ll be told off by “the adults”.  This can make from times when she’ll encounter a situation, not feel able to deal with it and suppress the emotions until she sees me and then …. boom! Out it comes, along with a potential bolt.

But what has been worrying the lovely D?  Well (I wasn’t going to mention this, but it’s been ongoing a while), another child has told her, not in a jokey way that he’s going to chop her head off.  Nice eh? Now you know and I know, this isn’t going to happen.  It just won’t. Even if there was something brought in, it would be spotted and stopped.  We’ve told D that it won’t happen, there’s no way it could happen, but has that stopped her from worrying? No.  It’s been eating away at her, she actually shuddered when the child went past on his bike (on the other side of the road) as we were waiting to meet T. Poor D.

If D had the confidence and courage to say “oh stop being silly, go away”, these situations wouldn’t happen.  But she doesn’t.  Despite coping mechanisms suggested by CAMHS and implemented by staff (last school year, I don’t think it’s been this year), she’ll still bottle it all up and I’ll just know, as soon as I see her coming down the stairs that it hasn’t been a good day – head down, no smile or acknowledgement that I’m there and then a bolt.

She was also upset that one of her classmates (not the one above) had been grumpy all day and they’re normally so smiley …. this was something that D understood when we talked about it later, that perhaps they’d wished it was still the weekend too.

And there’ll be lots of practise for next week’s Sports Day.  And I’m on an overnight away end of next week, D – bless her – decided that I should take one of her bunny toys with me, it seemed to help her suggesting that and, for me, it’s a relief that she has understood it’s happening.  So, a lot for D to worry about at the moment, hopefully she’ll overcome those that she can and our smiley D will be back.

I hope everyone’s day has gone well Jx

  

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Karen Sellers on 8th June 2015 at 8:25 pm.

Poor D, when someone says something like that our kids can be so literal and worry for weeks – I know. Hoping you can find an override switch somewhere to focus her on a better place x x

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Jeannette on 22nd November 2015 at 10:30 pm.

I’m hoping in time she’ll grow out of it, fingers crossed x

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