Take Heed J! – Weds 13th May 2015

By | May 13, 2015

This was today’s tweet for Mental Health Awareness Week (I’m tweeting daily in return for a donation to Mind Charity):

  
And I should have taken heed of that this afternoon, emphasis on the “should”.

T had a bit of a shouty moment on the walk home, proceeded to storm ahead of us and has withdrawn ever since.  It wasn’t pleasant at the time.

I felt a bit down because it set the tone for (what can sometimes be a chatty) walk home, but – thinking positively, I guess:

1.  He is coping extremely well in year 7 in mainstream.  He’s made some friends, even though they seem to be limited to school time only and he has no interest in seeing them outside of school.

2.  By (1) above, I mean he’s masking any negativity, any little comments until he gets off that school coach …. and then it’s unleashed.  Which (positivity here) means that he’s not creating any scenes at school (which he wouldn’t recover quickly from) and is there to do the best he can.

Which was what my tweet was about today.  It’s very easy to think negatively, especially when your child is SN, to imagine all the things they WON’T do (and if I wanted to wallow, I could and did previously, with detriment to my mental and physical wellbeing).

It’s far healthier to focus on what they/you CAN do.  

Okay, for me personally, I’m never going to be an award-winning blogger (I was a very proud finalist last year though), for the simple reason that this blog isn’t just a parenting blog, I’m not inspirational nor am I the best writer in the world.  But, this blog is my little voice, my little way to attempt to raise awareness of a lifelong disability that’s invisible and if fellow SN parents/carers/individuals can identify with something I’m saying, great.  That’s my aim.

Similarly, T and D have their autistic traits and mannerisms, sometimes we have our Friday family tea and there is zero input from either, which defies my previous anticipation of a family like the Oxo adverts – all smiling, taking the mick out of each other and chatting.

But, they each shine in their own ways.  T is a superb sports player and enjoys playing as a team, football being his passion.  

D (when she’s not overly anxious or emotional) has a lovely little nature.  She is always saying “I love you” and her cuddles are rib-crushingly intense.  She is so happy in her SN school, with its smaller class sizes and is reading fluently and (she doesn’t enjoy it) writing when she needs to (amidst moans and groans).

We are all healthy (apart from Dolce the ulcer) and thinking positively is just so much better, isn’t it.

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xOjox on 14th May 2015 at 1:00 pm.

you have described my RJ perfectly in this post, he is coping with yr7 mainstream…….until he gets home. But, like you, I suck it up and think positively, he’s coping! I was asked to write one of those tweets, but I’ve had such a rough couple of weeks (with the autism) I couldn’t bring myself to write it, is that wrong?

You help me, more than you realise. To have similar lives, yet you sparkle, showing me that it can be done xx

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Jeannette on 24th November 2015 at 5:04 pm.

Aww thank you, I didn’t manage to write the round up post in the end but enjoyed tweeting positive thoughts x

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LakesSingleMum on 17th May 2015 at 8:55 am.

great to focus on all the positive aspects of him to make you realise that things aren’t all bad!

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Jeannette on 24th November 2015 at 5:03 pm.

Very true 🙂

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