Unexpected – Mon 23rd March 2015

By | March 23, 2015

After the weekend we’ve just experienced, of autism-related angst and anxiety, I wasn’t expecting today to go well for D, especially as it involved an off-site visit from school.

Silly me!  There I was clock-watching today, thinking “she’ll be there now, I wonder if she’s okay in that huge place” and her dance group were going to be performing their dance to the A-level class that their choreographers came from.  Not only that, but they’d all be having their lunch in the college canteen.  A lot for the group to contend with.

I can’t deny, D has mentioned she had a couple of “moments”, she said lunch was “very noisy and busy” and they did so much walking around the college that her legs hurt. But she tolerated the visit, I guess primarily because the PE staff are so enthusiastic and know D and her anxieties, when to “persuade” gently and when to know that she’s just not happy.  

Also, it was a planned-in-advance visit, something the group had known about for a week, something discussed and agreed.  Something to be enthusiastic about and with good reason, the college has a fantastic reputation and track record.

Unlike the sudden changes at the party on Saturday, which left D incredibly anxious and she choose to deal with it by isolating herself from a place that always usually makes her so happy.  

It’s tricky, because I want to talk to her about it all, to say that sometimes change doesn’t go the way we expect it, but any mention of it and her face changes and she’s revisiting those emotions.  

Going back to today though, she’s done us proud.  Especially after the weekend.  It just goes to show that life with autism chucks us some curveballs, some not-so-positive and some utterly unexpected fab ones. 

I hope everyone’s day has gone well Jx

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Caroline on 26th March 2015 at 3:09 pm.

It must be so hard to navigate sometimes and hard to know how to talk about certain subjects with them. I think you do amazingly though and I am glad she had a good day at the college! Xx


Jeannette on 24th November 2015 at 4:19 pm.

Aww thank you x


Jane - Our Little Escapades on 31st March 2015 at 9:51 am.

It really is a roller-coaster ride! I’m so glad the visit went well and she enjoyed most of it. I hope things are settling down now and you can enjoy the holiday.

Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)


Jeannette on 24th November 2015 at 4:19 pm.

It definitely is x


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