Continued – Tues 11th Nov 2014

By | November 11, 2014

It’s quite rare these days for a day that doesn’t start terribly well to continue that way for D, but today has been one such day, poor thing.

This morning was injection time, something she knows will hurt, something that can be aided with numbing cream but the anxieties surrounding it all start the night before, continue in the morning and then build up on the way to school. No amount of reassurance that it will all be over quicker if she stays “still” seem to work and there is a time limit from preparation of the medication to administering, before it starts to solidify…yuck!

So, that was how our day started, a pale anxious D walking alongside me. An upset D during administration and then a pale, fragile D taken to class.

Today was also after school club sport, this half term’s being Basketball, something that gave her another reason to be anxious because not only are the majority of the other attendees quite a bit taller and stronger than her, it’s a contact sport and she hurt her fingers during it last week.

Any talk that she didn’t have to do it if she didn’t want to, was met with “I have to go”, in between sighs and general unhappiness.

So, it wasn’t a happy D collected, she was tired, she’d hurt her fingers again and walking home as the sun was setting gave her feelings that she’d “missed tea”, that she’d have “to go straight to bed because it was getting close to midnight”. Not great and then, because she doesn’t like to use the school toilets at all and because her poor bladder knew she was on her way home, she wet herself, in the street.

Further change to routine once we got home as a b a t h was in order, yes, before tea, something that usually happens before bed.

In between sobs, my tired girl listened to what I was saying, that she doesn’t need to do basketball next week if she’s not enjoying it, (which she’s not) and that I’ll speak to the organisers tomorrow.

She accepted that, she was a happier girl following that discussion, tea and cuddles and even if she didn’t have the confidence to say she wasn’t enjoying it at the time, she’s realised that sometimes “no” can be said, if there’s a good reason behind it.

And that is an achievement in itself.

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Louise George on 12th November 2014 at 9:26 pm.

So sorry that D had such a tough day but glad that she was happier at the end of the day and that she can say “no” to things if she wants to – that is definitely an achievement.

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Jeannette on 24th November 2014 at 2:37 pm.

Thanks, the confidence is an ongoing issue but at least she can assert herself sometimes 🙂

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Coombe Mill (Fiona) on 13th November 2014 at 7:41 pm.

Every sympathy with school toilets, I still have nightmares about my childhood ones!

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Jeannette on 24th November 2014 at 2:37 pm.

Thanks, she simply hates them.

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Jane - Ethan's Escapades on 17th November 2014 at 11:03 am.

Really hope things are getting better for D. I’m glad she is starting to learn that she can so no, lets hope it gets easier for her to do this.

Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)
x

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Jeannette on 24th November 2014 at 2:38 pm.

Thanks Jane, it’s very “touch and go” as to when she can assert herself, it depends upon everything else but it was a start 🙂

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