Bye bye Buggy (on the school run anyway) #SSAmazingAchievements

By | July 30, 2014

I’m writing this post today about a #SSAmazingAchievement that has slowly but surely crept up on D and I. It concerns this:

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We’ve used a SN buggy for years now, it’s acted as D’s safety net. She’ll walk beside me and then her sensory issues will take over, it could be someone walking behind us or on the other side of the road, it could be a fast noisy motorbike, anything out of the ordinary with a risk of a bolt into a busy road.

There were people who didn’t understand, who called her a big baby and an OT at her SN school who decided that it was my fault she was using the buggy, not taking into account D’s anxieties or the fact D needed a buggy sometimes just to feel safe. I don’t drive so if we hadn’t used a buggy, D wouldn’t get to school.

In the end I had to formally write to the OT as I felt we were being bullied and, that given time, D would feel happier walking to and from school.

This was nearly two years ago and this last term it happened! I’d been gradually decreasing the buggy use, making her walk more and more. We’d make up little games on the way, distractions from anything that might cause angst and found little checkpoints: the rose bushes to collect fallen petals from; the vintage car with the unusual tax disc, the low walls to balance on and the friendly cats.

I’d take the buggy and just push it along all the way, D knowing it was there but walking beside me, her tutu skirt (over leggings) sparkling in the sunshine. A few weeks ago we progressed to no buggy, a massive achievement which she’s done in her own time, with gentle positive encouragement and certainly not the bullying tactics of that OT.

Yesterday we walked to the village and back, an unfamiliar route for D so we had the buggy as back-up (and somewhere to put the shopping), but D happily walked beside me, holding my arm. We’ll use it again for a hospital appointment and a busy town trip as back up if needed but to see how far she’s come, in her own time, is fantastic.

Immensely proud of her.

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Rachel Cooper on 1st August 2014 at 8:54 am.

Well done – to both of you! I think for any parent to let go of the buggy is hard enough, but when a child has additional needs that must be even harder, but she sounds like she has done really well. #pocolo

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Jeannette on 4th August 2014 at 3:01 am.

Thanks Rachel, because D’s emotional and intellectual levels are that much lower than her age, it was going take a while longer, but so proud of her 🙂

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Caroline on 1st August 2014 at 2:11 pm.

Aww yay for D that is really lovely and sometimes you do have to do these things slowly and with gentle encouragement, I think that is much more effective than trying to force them before they are ready! #pocolo

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Jeannette on 4th August 2014 at 2:58 am.

Thanks Caroline, I so agree. I knew that forcing her would have been pretty disastrous (and she’d have got to school each morning in no fit state for her to learn anything)

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Paula Reed Nancarrow on 1st August 2014 at 8:44 pm.

Good for you both! #pocolo

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Jeannette on 4th August 2014 at 2:57 am.

Thank you, it’s something that D had to do and yay, she did it 🙂

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Kim Carberry on 1st August 2014 at 9:02 pm.

Aww! Well done to both of you! That is great!
Now you’re going to have to carry your shopping yourself…..hehehe I still miss my girls buggies for carrying the shopping home 😀

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Jeannette on 4th August 2014 at 2:56 am.

Oh yes, I know what you mean, muscles a plenty! X

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Victoria Welton on 2nd August 2014 at 9:44 pm.

I love that you had the buggy there as a safety net but this is brilliant news – well done both 🙂 Definitely an achievement. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x

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Jeannette on 4th August 2014 at 2:54 am.

Thanks Vicky, it was something I knew would happen but it had to be in her time, it’s lovely 🙂

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You Baby Me Mummy on 4th August 2014 at 4:14 pm.

Well done! That’s brilliant news x #WhatsTheStory

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Jeannette on 5th August 2014 at 11:23 am.

Thank you, so proud go her and that she got there in her own time and wayn:)

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Louisa on 4th August 2014 at 5:07 pm.

Well done! The way you did it was the best way, still retaining her sense of security. The OT needs to understand that parents know their child and their needs better than anyone #whatsthestory

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Jeannette on 5th August 2014 at 11:24 am.

Couldn’t agree more, there was a distinct lack of understanding of her anxieties and the subsequent dangers from this.

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Clare Nicholas on 4th August 2014 at 6:15 pm.

Awwww well done to you both. That’s a huge achievement.
#MagicMoments

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Jeannette on 5th August 2014 at 11:25 am.

Thanks, it’s pretty mega for us x

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Redpeffer on 4th August 2014 at 7:38 pm.

How fantastic, what wonderful news and well done D!

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Jeannette on 5th August 2014 at 11:26 am.

Thanks Ioona, it’s taken a while but its lovely to walk alongside each other 🙂

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Super Busy Mum on 5th August 2014 at 7:33 am.

This is fabulous! Well done!! I’ve been walking Belle and taking the buggy as a sidekick lately too. Nice to see them wanting to walk everywhere. x

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Jeannette on 5th August 2014 at 11:27 am.

Thanks, well done to you and Belle too 🙂 x

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Merlinda Little on 8th August 2014 at 8:10 pm.

You painted a pretty picture in my head. A girl in her tutu walking. Shimmering. Congrats for this =) #MagicMoments

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Jeannette on 12th August 2014 at 12:31 pm.

Aww thank you, she does love her tutu skirts. Big, big developments for the school runs in future too 🙂

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Stacey Guilliatt on 9th August 2014 at 9:31 pm.

Fantastic, well done D 🙂 #MagicMoments

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Jeannette on 12th August 2014 at 12:32 pm.

Thanks, it took a while but we got there 🙂

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Karen Sellers on 13th August 2014 at 8:08 pm.

How on earth did I miss this astounding piece of news? That
is fabulous, and well done you telling the OT to back off. D is a
star x x

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Jeannette on 19th August 2014 at 12:05 pm.

Thanks, it is fab, we walk and chat, just lovely xx

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