This little man has a lot on his mind at the moment:
There he is, during our Mumma-T time whilst D has after school club on a Thursday. Even though, he’s “plugged in” and viewing his football videos, it’s a chance for us to chat on the way to and from about how he’s doing. Sometimes it can turn into a statistics-fest of how various players/teams are doing but it’s a time that I look forward to, he is such a mine of information.
There is a lot of uncertainty for T at the moment; obviously the secondary school place appeal is still ongoing (we’re not expecting to have a final decision until mid June), his football team (that he plays for) are changing clubs with a new playing formation and the SATs are due to be taken next week. The latter is something he just wants over and done with, as is the former.
Anyway, he returned to school today, after the Bank Holiday weekend, D didn’t as she had an inset day. This evens things out as T returned to school a day later due to inset after the Easter holidays.
Now, my two (T and D), they could squabble their way through a whole weekend if provoked and inset days are the main thing that gets them squabbling.
When D has an inset day, T’s reaction is one of extreme anger, he forgets during this time that he has recently had one. When it’s reversed and D is protesting, he is extremely quick to remind her exactly when she’s had a day off. This is where their intellectual and emotional variances are very evident.
So, so as not to add to his angst this morning, it was easier to drop him off at the usual time (before D) and not mention it. Similarly this afternoon. It seemed better not to provide any more anxiety ammunition.
To some, this might seem like deceit and that is something I never intend, it’s – like I said – preventing further anxiety and (potentially) anger. Anxiety that he has more than enough of at the moment. Anxiety that can be contagious and lead to a fraught evening.
The difficulty we are finding with the school appeal is that, because T doesn’t have a statement (or SEN) and is highly unlikely to receive one, we (Hubbie and I) feel that we are very much on our own with this. The SEN people who would normally be offering advice have discounted us because he does not have a statement. To be appealing against a decision on a school place due to our feeling that T’s needs are better met at a smaller, more autism-friendly environment without advice or recommendations feels like a big task but one that we’ll do our best to fulfil.
We owe it to the little chap in the picture above.
Thanks for reading, I hope everyone’s day has gone well Jx
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