“Hello…I love you…” #MagicMoments

By | June 3, 2013

Ooh, it’s Monday after a loong half term and time to link up for another Magic Moment.

My one this week is very recent, happening last Monday. It’s made me think “awwwww” every time I remember it and it’s about my little man, T.

T, for those new to my blog, has high-functioning autism. He finds showing affection difficult and has problems with reading emotions in others, but will happily burble football results, match facts and anything football-related until the proverbial cows come home.

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Unlike his sister, D, who is very emotional and you can instantly tell how her day has gone at school – she will either bolt (bad day of stored-up emotions) or rush at me like she’s bowling and bear hug me (good day) – T will contain his emotions and silently withdraw from a situation and then go and bounce whatever has upset him away on the trampoline.

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He doesn’t cuddle unprompted, if he wants a cuddle he’ll stand very close to me and wait for me to notice and cuddle him. He also never says he loves us, our evening routine is that he’ll put his head on first Hubbie, then me, for separate hugs, we say we love him, he doesn’t say it back and then he’ll say “Night Dad, Night Mum” (always that way round, always) and then he’ll go off to his room.

D and I have the beginning of a song we sing to each other, it’s Joyride by Roxette.

It starts “Hello, you fool, I love you, come on, join the joyride”.

Except when D sings it, it’s “Hello, YOU FOOOOOL (leaning right in to my/Hubbie’s face), I love you, come on, join the Jollyride” and she’ll be laughing away, making a winding motion with her hands. She’ll sing it to me, to Hubbie and we sing it back. It’s lovely.

Here’s the magic moment (finally you think):

We’d been out to the park for a picnic and had lots of fun, lots of family laughter, oodles of fresh air.

We had a pit stop in the coffee shop, freshcatos for the men, water for D (it’s all she’ll drink) and a decaff skinny mocha for me.

T picked up the triangle-shaped menu thingy that was on the table and sang “hello, you fool, I love you” through it to me, giggling.

It was lovely, it was magical, it was fun. It’s something I’ll never forget.

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ouremuk66 on 3rd June 2013 at 8:21 pm.

That’s actually made tears well up here, awww.

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AutismMumma on 5th June 2013 at 4:27 pm.

Thanks K, it was lovely x

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allthecaminggear on 7th June 2013 at 6:12 pm.

Aw, that was a really lovely moment. Wishing you many more

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AutismMumma on 7th June 2013 at 7:31 pm.

Thank you, hope so 🙂

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Lauren James (KnackeredHousewife) on 8th June 2013 at 8:31 am.

Thank you for sharing that with us, I loved reading it.

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Victoria Welton on 8th June 2013 at 8:51 am.

How wonderful that all this time he’s been watching you that with D and never really joined in – he did it when he was ready and he initiated it in a fun and loving way. Beautiful. Thanks for linking 🙂 xx

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Cathie B on 8th June 2013 at 11:23 am.

Major lump in my throat as I read this. What a lovely post – definitely one of my faves this week xx

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Jane on 9th June 2013 at 3:26 pm.

Been meaning to comment on this for ages. Love this moment, words that you wanted for so long finally there :0) amazing. Ethan also does the head thing! X

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AutismMumma on 9th June 2013 at 7:20 pm.

Aww, thank you. It was a lovely moment, I haven’t had a “love you” since but it’s okay 🙂

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AutismMumma on 9th June 2013 at 7:20 pm.

Thanks V xx

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AutismMumma on 9th June 2013 at 7:21 pm.

Awww thank you

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AutismMumma on 9th June 2013 at 7:30 pm.

Thanks, he hasn’t said them since but just that once was lovely. The head thing is nice when it happens too 🙂

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Laura Huggins on 11th June 2013 at 1:15 pm.

Thank you for sharing hun, it made me well up.

I think it is absolutely wonderful that you all have that special song.

Thank you for linking up with The Weekend Blog Hop

Hope to see you again this weekend

Laura x x x

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AutismMumma on 12th June 2013 at 12:32 pm.

Thanks Laura, he hasn’t sung it since or said “I love you” but it was lovely when it happened. will def link up again this weekend x

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